“The lazy Christian has his mouth full of complaints, when the active Christian has his heart full of comforts.”
— Thomas Brooks
Although you may see my videos of cleaning and organizing and you know the Jill of “today,” the Jill of the past HATED cleaning and organizing. I mocked women who were like that. I took pride in being a woman who wasn’t “built for getting her hands dirty.”
*insert righteous eye roll here*
The Lord has done a GREAT WORK in me – not just in my heart on matters of sin but He was so gracious to restore unto me a LOVE for being a Homemaker. This love was around as a child and was lost as I became an adult. My sin of laziness was a HUGE factor in that Homemaker Spark in me being diminished. I was selfish and didn’t want to work – that’s seriously what it came down to.
Instead of discipline I allowed dirt to pile up. Instead of consistency, I chose couch time. “Out of sight, out of mind” was my motto. Who cares what the inside of the fridge looked like or if my children’s clothes were properly organized – I wanted ME time. I deserved ME time, right?
As a Christian – the fruit of self-control and discipline needs to be continually growing in us. This fruit gets watered to grow as we go to the Word – obey it and seek the Lord.
ARE YOU WATERING GOOD FRUIT OR IS IT BEING STARVED WITH ME TIME?
American culture screams at Mamas that we deserve ME time!!! We need self-love and treat-yo-self days!! We cannot pour from an empty cup, right?
“I am already being poured out as a drink offering…” (2 Timothy 4:6).
John MacArthur says, “At this time, he (Paul) was in a cold cell, in chains, and with no hope of deliverance. Abandoned by virtually all of those close to him for fear of persecution and facing imminent execution, Paul wrote to Timothy…” (John MacArthur Study Bible, NKJV 1997) He was definitely not in a place of comfort or rest.
God has given us His Spirit and He is willing to help us be strong: denying the flesh and putting on self-control and discipline.
If you’re exhausted Mama, you’re in good company. It is a GOOD THING to work hard unto the Lord. The Bible has a lot to say about laziness. We are told to be “busy at home.” Titus 2. The Proverbs 31 woman is an example of a wife and mother – working diligently, unto the Lord, in her Home and for her Family.
There is ABSOLUTELY a time for REST. God gave us this example in Creation: resting on the 7th day. He did this for us, not because He needed it.
But there is a HUGE difference in resting from a week of work and being LAZY. One is sin and one is wisdom and even obedience.
Whoever is lazy regarding his work is also a brother to the master of destruction. - Proverbs 18:9
OUR HOMES BECOME DESTRUCTIVE WHEN WE CHOOSE TO BE LAZY!
As a former Foster Mama, I saw the horrible impact a messy home has on a child.
Children shouldn’t have to wonder if they have clean clothes for school and if they have clean clothes, they shouldn’t have to dig through messy ones to find them.
Children THRIVE in orderliness and routine.
In mess, children feel out of order themselves, they don’t sleep as well, they can’t find what they need, they learn bad grooming habits, and they’re less likely to want to work hard themselves on school, good habits, extracurriculars, and spending quality time with the family.
It’s also important to mention that mess can easily cultivate in poor hygiene and breed sickness. It’s SO important that we’re cleaning and keeping our littles clean as well, teaching them how to be good stewards of their bodies.
“Laziness leads to a sagging roof; idleness leads to a leaky house.” - Ecclesiastes 10:18
MESSY HOMES CREATE CONFLICT
I know that all those years of being lazy really took a toll on my marriage. My husband was working hard for her family and when he’d come home – not much was done. He would become frustrated and have to pick up the slack. Then when he was even more tired and wanted to go to bed early, I’d get annoyed that he wouldn’t want to have family time.
The whole time the problem was ME. My laziness.
Our marriage has done nothing but grow and blossom under the GRACE of Christ. Repenting of my laziness resulted in me becoming a good worker in our home – which led to my husband coming home HAPPY and able to relax and spend time with us – instead of doing the chores I should’ve done in the first place.
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” - Proverbs 14:1
- Confess and Repent if you have been a lazy Homemaker. This is agreeing with the Scriptures and admitting you’re in sin. Repenting is turning away from that sin. God will help you ladies!
- START FRESH – Have a cleaning day and get the house CLEAN!!!!! This way you can simply implement a daily cleaning routine to KEEP it clean from now on. Throw things away, declutter, wash all dirty clothes, get rid of clothes you don’t wear or need, dry and put clothes away in an orderly fashion, clean out the refrigerator, scrub bathrooms and floors, donate toys that do not get played with, make beds, organize drawers and closets, etc.
- EVERY DAY do daily chores of upkeep. Dishes should be done everyday. Vacuum, sweeping, beds made, items PUT away, trash taken out. We have a “clean as you go” method and it really helps keep things clean as we cook or do a project. Don’t get something out if you haven’t put the thing you just used away.
- On one day of the week, set aside time to do some deeper cleaning.
- Do laundry 1-2 times a week depending on necessity. FOLD AND PUT CLOTHES AWAY THAT DAY!!!
- If you and your husband both work, do what you can when you get home – do the work and THEN you’ll be able to rest. It really doesn’t take that much time to clean up after the family. I was a full-time journalist, a pastor’s wife, a mother of 5 and VERY BUSY. I still found time to keep our house in order and have family dinners every night…most of the time. 😉
- It’s NOT about PERFECTION but about OBEDIENCE.
- Get your children to do chores to help out. We have a chore chart and LOVE IT! The girls earn checks every day for their daily tasks and at the end of the week are rewarded with a movie night, an outing, or something fun. *Sometimes there are no rewards because the lesson is to work FOR THE LORD and not to receive gifts!
Pray for God to change your heart when it comes to how you feel about keeping a clean home. He is so gracious and kind. I am living proof that He does this but it didn’t happen overnight.
OBEDIENCE over FEELINGS.
We need to be women who obey despite what we feel like doing.
Laziness is EASY but it is not REWARDING. It is sin. We need to be sure that if we’re resting it’s because our bodies either really NEED it or because the work is done.
The Lord will change your desires when you delight in Him. He can give you a heart for Homemaking.
MAKE CLEANING AND CHORES ENJOYABLE
- Invest in cleaning supplies you like and enjoy using. I know not everyone has big budgets to buy the latest cleaning gadgets but that’s totally okay! All you need is the basics. The Dollar Tree has so many cleaning supplies – find smells and ingredients you like and are comfortable with and use them!
- Put on sermons or worship music! I love listening to Paul Washer or JMac while I clean. Not only am I working hard but I am growing in the Word as well.
- Make it a game! We sometimes do time drills in my home where my girls will see how fast they can *properly* clean up their toys or their rooms. They see if they can beat that time the next time.
Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it. — Hebrews 13:2
Ladies, when you realize that what your issue really is – is a sin issue, it’s important to get alone with God and repent of it.
OBEY HIS WORD. WORK HARD. REST WELL.
Again, the Lord is faithful and has given you His Spirit to help you be more Holy. Pray. Lean on Him. WORK AS IF YOU’RE WORKING FOR THE LORD.
23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,
4 A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.
14 Do everything without grumbling or arguing, 15 so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky